Some of the biggest problems, resistances, self-floggings, struggles…(Fill in your challenges) we face stem from FEELINGS of being unworthy, unloved, unaccepted, not good enough, less than… (Fill in your ‘Need to be Better’ at).
The thing is, that thought (I’m not good enough) and the feeling it generates is a LIE.
We already ARE worthy, and already HAVE everything we need right in this moment to BE all that we are in our True Soul Being.
I believe that. I teach that in our Journey to the Center of Your Heart program. However, hearing that concept said out loud isn’t an instant pudding transformational fix to FEELING worthy. It might BE true, but it still doesn’t FEEL true.
So the question is: What does it take in your life for you to feel Worthy?
Here are some thoughts to consider. These are only a drop in the bucket, but they will get you started:
Be a Baby About it: Babies don’t sit around wondering about their worthiness. They are all about their own self-care. They ask – or- okay, sometimes proclaim loudly for-whatever they need. It’s “Me, me, me. Me- hungry, Me-want to be warm, changed, amused, loved, cuddled, rocked to sleep.” They don’t ponder, “Should I ask?” “Will they think I’m a selfish baby? Too whiny? Will they put me back in the dark belly?”
No! They are fearless self-caretakers. They have a firm grasp on “What do I want, What do I need.”
Talk Like a Lover: Do you speak to yourself the way you speak to someone you have just fallen madly in love with? You know what I’m talking about, that heart-pounding, head-over heals, THIS IS THE ONE!!! kind of language that you use when that special someone has dropped into your life from Cupid’s Cloud? Didn’t think so.
Fall Madly in Love with Number One- YOU! Give it a try! Tell yourself all the scrumptious, delightful, fun and charming things you do. Be BLIND to those small, annoying habits. (Everyone has something, -even Prince Perfect) Laugh at your jokes! Who cares if they were only in your head and you were the only one to hear them! You are F.U.N.N.Y. and S.M.A.R.T! Start telling yourself so, and, how proud of you that you are. It makes a difference. Bigger than you could ever imagine.
Take a Trip to Imagination Island: With the help of Meditation, Journal or Doodling Tools, spend some time on Imagination Island. Imagination Island is part of a cluster of islands named the Creative Islands that are part of the Journey to the Center of Your Heart. (along with Magic Island, Vision Island and Museum Island… and others that are being discovered along the way.) On Imagination Island, find a comfy hammock, a tasty umbrella drink and with all the time in the world to be honest with your True Self, ask yourself this question: “If I felt worthy, what would my life look like, what would it feel like?”
Make sure you write it all down, or doodle it all down or however you can capture it, because one of the downsides of Imagination Island is that if you don’t capture the visit, it tends to fade away. Now that you have captured this experience, what can you take back to the mainland and implement in your daily life?
Listen to Your Heart, NOT Your Head: Your Head is filled with what we not-so-affectionately in the Journey Group call, “MPA’s”, which are Multiple Personality Aspects of yourself who are hell bent on running your life from the backseat of your brain, without you even being aware of it. One of these backseat drivers, non-affectionately called “The Flogger” by our Journey Travelers, loves to yammer on and on about what you didn’t do, need to do, shoulda’ done, coulda’ done, tell you why you are a jerk, too lazy, are a B-word or any other fill in the blank word they can think of. You are too much this, not enough that, and an all around looser. If you let the Flogger and his other MPA friends run your life they will have you running for the covers, chocolate and remote before you know it. Find a way to shut them up and tune into your HEART-voice. Your heart-voice loves you. It tells you the truth. It knows the real you, it will show you Grace, Unconditional Love, Encouragement, Truth, Compassion and Hope. Now doesn’t that sound better?
Stop Sleep Walking Through Life and Wake Up: One of the biggest and most overlooked reasons that we think we aren’t worthy is that we aren’t paying attention. We have checked out, numbed out, closed off, built walls and crawled into holes of protection from the pain of life. This results in procrastination, isolation, awfulization, (yes, I might have made up that word…) and a host of other negative –ations that give the floggers more ammunition to beat us up with. We spend so much time Not Choosing, that it becomes an unconscious choice to hide. Wake up! The first realization is to understand that you are always choosing, whether you are doing it consciously or not, so make your first plan of action to be AWAKE and AWARE of your choices.
Practice IAAPC: Set your INTENTIONS. Follow up with your AFFIRMATIONS. ( You are always affirming too, consciously or unconsciously, so be sure you KNOW what you are affirming) Carry through with your ACTIONS. Keep your Personal PROMISES. Reinforce with your CELEBRATIONS!
Is any of this easy? Hell no. Will you do it in 21 days? Nope. Sixty Days to Sanity? Not Likely. How about “Six Months to a Whole New You?” I wouldn’t hold my breath, although, by six months you will be feeling pretty darn good about yourself and thinking you are mighty fine.
Off and on for the rest of your life. As time goes on, you will feel worthy more days than not. Then more months than not, than mostly always except for those rare times when you feel like you really blew it. And then, even then, you will pull out the magic weapon of Grace , Love and Self-forgiveness and set things straight again.
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