But I feel Guilty!!
Guilt or Happiness, your choice, but you can’t have both.
Think about that. Have you ever been happy while flogging yourself with the guilty whip?
But I can’t help it! Every time I try to sneak off and take time for me, there is this little voice that says I should be taking care of someone else, that their needs should come first!
How can their needs come first when you have nothing left to give but guilt-ridden exhaustion? Do you honestly think they want that?
What they want is your light.
What they want is to soak up your loving heart, to revel in your joy, delight in the sound of your laughter, feel safe in the comfort of your strong and secure arms, gain wisdom from the lessons you are learning on this journey we call life.
Play with you along the way, walk with you, talk with you.
They don’t want a piece of your guilt. They don’t want a slice of your tired pie. They don’t want to know how much you are sacrificing on their behalf. They never asked for you to pass on that legacy of heavy guilt for them to carry on.
They want your love. They want your happiness.
Can you give that to them?
Wait… do you even have it to give?
If the bottom of your well is empty, where will the water come from to quench their thirst? If your pantry is barren, how will you give them food to eat if you have not nourished yourself first?
If you are not happy first, how can you share happiness with others?
If you are a creator of guilt- then that is the product you share with the world. That is the legacy you leave.
Guilt or happiness.
You can lay the guilt down, you know. No one can make you carry that heavy burden.
You get to choose.
Happiness is free by the way. Doesn’t cost a dime. And the more you share, the more you have.
Doesn’t seem like a hard choice when you stop to think about it, does it?
What about when you want to be happy and that’s what you choose but the Universe has other plans for you and it’s hard to be happy? I’ve been fighting with that on a regular basis for a very long time, every time I think I have gotten the guilt or unhappiness beat, it hits me over the head with a frying pan.
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