There are very few things that can separate us from happiness and success as quickly and effectively as resentment and anger. And yet, despite our most glorious dreams, goals and desires, we hold on to our battle scars and wounded hearts, pointing almost deliriously to those who cause us pain as the excuse for all of our discomfort.
We tell our worn and repeated stories to anyone who will sit through them. We wear the shield of injury like a badge of courage against change and growth. We hold it up against the light as an explanation as to why our lives couldn’t ever be different, ever grow… why we alone are the ones who couldn’t hold the golden ring of happiness within our grasp.
It’s all HER fault. HIS too.
And we are saved from taking responsibility for the life we were brought here to travel. We have a champion we can hate enough to bear the banner. The only banner we must carry is the one labeled VICTIM.
And then someone casually mentions that there is a way out.
We could forgive. We could let go. We could hold them in the light of love, wish them well with God’s blessing and walk away.
But the first thought that flashes through our angry minds is, “No way in hell am I giving them the satisfaction of forgiving them. They don’t deserve it.”
Let me share a radical concept with you. Forgiveness has nothing to do with them. It has nothing to do with what they do or do not deserve, or understand or even have asked for.
It has to do with you, your heart, your healing and your well-being. It has to do with your relationship with God, Spirit, The Universe…whatever name you meet your creator by. It has to do with your hopes, your dreams and your ability to step into your own personal power and future.
It is for you and only you. It is a selfish, self-fulfilling, self-fixing cure. Your monster may never even be aware of your forgiveness because they may never bother to tap into the Well of Spiritual Connectivity where we all reside with God. If they don’t, your secret will be safely kept.
And if they do….they won’t be your monster anymore anyhow. They will have already been profoundly changed by that miracle of forgiveness into someone that would be easy for you to forgive.
Don’t do it for them. Do it for your own self-healing.
Marianne Williamson, in The Law of Divine Compensation puts it profoundly like this:
We forgive, then, out of self-interest. I forgive you because I want out of my pain. I forgive you so that I can be free of what you did. I see beyond your mistake to the love in you so that I can see beyond the mistake to the love in me- because only then can I have a miracle.
Aren’t you worth being set free? Don’t you deserve it? Haven’t you had enough pain? There is a way to set yourself free and heal the separation.
Open your heart and forgive.
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